Monthly Archives: August 2011

Link Roundup

Until I get some new content up, I’d recommend you all check out these wonderful posts on other feminist blogs. I think you will find them very useful in furthering your own understanding of feminism, and combating some common defenses/red herrings of hardcore porn.

“If you don’t like it, don’t watch it.”

“Even if I somehow manage to avoid ever seeing porn, it is expected that I dress like a porn star, wax like a porn star, perform in bed like a porn star, and fully embrace all of my partner’s porn-fueled fantasies. I am told that if I don’t perform to his demands I will be cheated on, dumped, abused, and it will all be my fault. I am told that if I refuse to date men who who use porn I will be alone or at best am a controlling bitch and will probably be lied to anyways.”

Men explain why they like porn, so we don’t have to!

“I can’t imagine anything more unerotic that porn approved by sour faced feminists.
What makes porn exciting is the transgressive nature of the acts portrayed – the abuse and degradation that women seem to be happy to endure for money.
We watch porn to live out the fantasies that we cannot actualise.
Does it degrade women? Of course but not much more than conventional work does.”

Transactional Models of Sexuality are Anti-Sex

“Sex is pleasurable. And you can’t really argue that nature doesn’t actively encourage hedonism, even if it is tempered by empathy. Ergo, women have an interest in sex in their own right: because done right, it feels good. There is no reason for men to try to bribe women into sex—and in fact, a bribe implies that consent is not genuine.”

But, you’re erasing feminist porn!

Let’s get some perspective here, huh? When someone spends 99% of their time defending .0000001% of an industry while avoiding confronting the 99.9999999% of the industry that has real effects on women’s lives, that person looks a bit delusional/defensive/dishonest. Let it go, dude. Admit that you know porn is bad for women and you use it, participate in it, or profit from it anyway. You aren’t fooling anyone here, and I doubt that you’re even fooling yourself.

P.S. I added a few new links! Check them out:

Anti-Porn Tumblr – Lots of powerful quotes collected here.

Brave Lucky

Buried Alive


1 in 3 women watch porn?

This is a statistic I see tossed around quite often, citing Nielsen data. While I can’t find the actual data that posits that 1 in 3 porn viewers are women, all searches seem to point to Violet Blue.

 

In the first three months of 2007, according to Nielsen/NetRatings, approximately one in three visitors to adult entertainment Web sites was female; during the same period, nearly 13 million American women were checking out porn online at least once each month.

 

 

 

I’m going to assume that she didn’t just pull these numbers out of thin air. So why do they sound so unbelievable? Even James Deen was shocked!

 

“I’m not old and ugly. For the percentage of women interested in porn, I’m a guy who they would talk to in a bar.”

He says “percentage of women” like it’s a teaspoon of water in the ocean of smut, and it occurs to me that he doesn’t know how popular he is. I tell him that the latest data from Nielsen shows that . “What? That’s awesome! I had no idea it was so high!”

 

What does this mean? Do 1 in 3 women really like porn? What other explanation could there be? The real problem with this data is the conclusions being drawn from it. Technically, I would be one of those women that view porn more than once a month, and I hate porn.  I can honestly say that I still haven’t met a woman, out in the real world, who likes porn. I do know a lot of women who have accessed porn at one point or another, however. Some of them look for advice on how to please a man, and many more are tracking their partner’s online porn use.  Most women, at some point of time in their lives, will look at porn out of sheer curiosity. That’s how it started for me. Keeping this in mind, 1 in 3 is not so hard to believe anymore. 1 in 3 have viewed porn…that doesn’t mean they liked it, though.

 

Additionally, what “adult entertainment websites” were covered in this study? Would Playboy.com count as a porn site? How did they determine the sex of the viewer, such as in a multi-person household? Did they record differences in average viewer sex by content?

 


That’s not feminism. – Part 2

In the previous post, I showed you a pretty appalling comment ‘Hookset” left in reply to a woman who was trafficked for 13 years. Here’s a recap:

Here’s the deal though, not one man would ever support human trafficking. We oppose more than anything else!! This article is completely slanted towards Women’s Equality groups trying to bash men as a whole. We all know the problems in this industry and we know that the biggest is it’s not legalized and kept on the black market for foul play like you’ve unfortunately experienced. They don’t get the solution is to legalize and control it and want to do nothing but keep it illegal. They are offering no solution at all other than saying men should change their way which is complete “garbage”. Men would protect and make this industry safer than it’s ever been if it wasn’t for the hard liners using your “plight” as the propaganda to gain equality. Go through posts below and you will many other workers who are here by choice and are not “exploited” one bit. Trust me, you’ll get more sympathy from me than these crass ladies below and who wrote this article.

First, I’m going to detail the problems in this comment, piece by piece. He says not one man would ever support human trafficking, and yet it is men who force women into sex slavery, and men who rape those women because they can’t tell the difference between a “happy hooker” and a trafficking victim. Or more likely, they can tell the difference and don’t care. It is abundantly clear that Hookset is delusional, and he also seems to have a narcissist complex common to many punters, as you will see later on.

He hilariously goes on to say the article is biased towards Women’s Equality groups, as if that’s something to be ashamed of, and proceeds to explain to her about how the biggest problem is criminalization which seems to be a bona fide fact in Hookset’s universe. Note how he says radical feminists are using her plight, which he put in quotation marks, because he takes her experiences very seriously. He dismisses her perspective and instructs her to instead peruse the comments of more pleasant sex workers. This is yet another example of men using the “positive” women to silence those women who dare express anything “negative”, and is something sex-positives need to acknowledge as a problem.  Are you allies to women? Put your money where your mouth is. Not one sex worker or sex-positive feminist called Hookset out for patronizing a trafficking victim.  Not one.

 

Update 8/05/11: I’ve been working on this piece for a while, but unfortunately the original comments of the article have since been deleted, so I can’t continue… Damn my procrastination! If anyone knows how to retrieve a copy of the web page from a few days ago, contact me! There’s so much more that still needs to be covered.